Faqr [Dervish-hood] is my Fakhr [Pride]

Faqr [Dervish-hood] is my Fakhr [Pride].
-Prophet Muhammad [s.a.w]

Faqr is not the renunciation of zad [possessions], it is the renunciation of murad [covetousness].
- from Kashful Mahjub , Syed Ali Bin Uthman al-Hujweri

Our sense of who we are determines what we perceive as our needs and what matters to us in life -whatever matters to us will have the power to upset and disturb us. We can use this as a criterion to find out how deeply we know ourselves.

What matters to us is not necessarily what we say or believe, but what our actions and reactions reveal as important and serious to us. So we may want to ask ourselves the question:
What are the things that upset and disturb us?

If small things have the power to disturb us, then who we think we are is exactly that: small. That will be our unconscious belief.

What are small things?
Ultimately all things are small things because all things are transient.